5 Conversations

Summary Written by Peter Taylor
"As best as I could understand it, the Buddha’s main thesis was that in a world where everything is constantly changing, we suffer because we cling to things that won’t last"

- 10% Happier, page 89

The Big Idea

Practice makes mindful

"Mindfulness is the ability to recognize what is happening in your mind right now—anger, jealousy, sadness, the pain of a stubbed toe, whatever—without getting carried away by it."- 10% Happier, page 103

As a professional, the concept of slowing down and observing the moment can seem counterintuitive. Surprisingly, the biggest takeaway Harris shares with his readers is that practicing meditation should be rendered a tool in the great toolbox of success, rather than a hindrance. As a rookie, Harris shed light on his personal discovery of the seemingly earth-shattering concept of “letting go”.

“There’s a difference between the raw sensations we experience and the mental spinning we do in reaction to said stimuli,” he explains. Quickly learning that “letting go” and “passivity” are very different, Harris, through his personal trial and error, fundamentally squashes the concern that meditation practice would result in a loss of productivity, progress or results. By letting go of mishaps, frustrations and setbacks, readers learn to replace them with valuable observations that drive growth and ultimately success. “Is this useful?” quickly became a personal mantra for Harris, and is a large takeaway for his readers.

Harris shares the basics of mediation practice with the acronym R.A.I.N. (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Non-Identification). While completing his first silent retreat, Harris learns to recognize feelings that arose throughout the meditation process rather than attempt to ignore. Allow gives those feelings and thoughts the space to be, and investigate encourages participants to dig deeper into the affect of those feelings/thoughts on your physical person. Lastly, non-identification is the logical last step, basically dismissing or refusing to allow those feelings or thoughts to define your character. This acronym is both a practical and intuitive practice for rookies and readers alike.

A true convert, Harris makes it clear that practicing mindfulness is not just for people in loosely clad clothing with incense burning in every room. Mindfulness is a valuable practice that serves his personal life and his professional life well, allowing for growth, patience and ultimately success.

Insight #1

Under Promise, Over Deliver

"I do it because it makes me 10% happier…counterprogramming against the overpromising of the self-helpers while also offering an attractive return on investment."- 10% Happier, page 154

Practically speaking, this audience is looking for tangible and realistic takeaways, and after serving up the big [and controversial] push for meditation, Harris follows up with a modest promise. Give it a whirl, it could make you 10% happier.

Having started out as a skeptic himself, Harris could anticipate the familiar questions that would come with sharing his journey. Admirably, Harris doesn’t offer a sweeping statement or vague promise of enlightenment; rather he makes it relatable and surprisingly appealing. Who doesn’t want to be 10% happier?

Paired with the The Big Idea of “letting go”, readers are promised an ROI on happiness in all arenas of their life. Practicing mindfulness for 5 minutes a day, Harris shares, made him calmer, more relatable, more focused and more present in all areas of his life.

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Insight #2

The answer is non-attachment

"It’s non-attachment to the results. I think for an ambitious person who cares about their career… its natural to be trying really hard. Then the Buddhist thing comes in around the results—because it doesn’t always happen the way you think it should."- 10% Happier, page 206

“Striving is fine, as long as it’s tempered by the realization that, in an entropic universe, the final outcome is out of your control,” Harris writes.

Harris knows his audience, and identifies with them. Mindfulness is only a practice worth trying if it does not hinder the internal drive for professional results, thus this second insight is highly applicable. It is easier to be mindful when everything is going to plan; difficulty rises when deals fall through, deadlines are approaching or hard work goes unrewarded. Through practice, one should gain the distance from effort and results, recognizing that “all we can really do is everything we can do.”

Easier said that done, right?

Right. For those who have yet to add meditation to their toolbox.

Readers can identify with Harris as he struggles through this concept. Ultimately landing on the need to deepen one’s practice, exercise patience in development and maintain a heightened focus on process rather than the end result.

“All I had to do was tell myself: if it doesn’t work, I only need the grit to start again, like when mind wanders in meditation.”

In not so many words, Harris’s writing reads like it’s directed at his anticipated skeptics. As if he could anticipate the eye rolls, the immediate dismissal and the counter arguments, he lends a very biased but very relatable approach to his exploration and acceptance of mindfulness and meditation as a daily practice. Throughout his journey he ultimately crafts a sort of Mindfulness for Dummies for professionals and common folk alike—dangling a couple [very appealing] carrots that even the harshest of critics would be foolish to snuff at.

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Nick Cowley

This is Nick’s first book and has been an opportunity to draw on his wealth of management experience in major corporations.

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